You have a part to play in getting your partner

PART OF THIS PROCESS?

Gen. 2: 21; “And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof”’

Marriage is a great institution that has criss-crossed nations,  tribes, academic and social-cultural goals and affiliations. Not too many married couples are finding marriage pleasant. A brother was planning for his wedding sometime ago and he went to tell some of his customers who were directors of an engineering company. They told him they were fed up of their experience with marriage and were looking for a way out, while he was taking steps into it. Several homes were broken with the highest divorce figures coming from the West. Many couples are living in hell. In fact, if you want to describe the torments of hell, just say the situation in hell is comparable, though far worse than what obtains in their homes. And they will get the message. Yet originally, God designed the family to be an extension of Heaven. It is my prayer that whatever your family has lost or is missing which should give you heaven on earth will be divinely supplied.

In this passage, Gen. 2:21-24, although Adam was asleep when God was working on Eve, he however made some certain inputs. He contributed a rib. As a searching single, you have to make a sacrificial contribution for your Eve to come out. The size of your contribution will determine how your finished product- your wife will be. That contribution could be in the area of prayer, fasting, sowing seeds into the type of home or partner you want. It could also be to what extent you have prepared. Sister, if you want a good home, are you prepared to be a good wife? As married couples you will need to make sacrificial contributions in order to have your desired home. Turning a house into a home is the responsibility of both partners. Proverbs 14:1 says the woman who sees herself as a builder and commits herself to building her home is wise. If you build your home, you will enjoy it. If you pull it down, you will regret it. Are you building or pulling down your home? Moving house into home is a process. It takes time. Give it what it takes.

FROM: OPEN HEAVENS, A DAILY DEVOTIONAL.

Be Patient as you find your partner.

BE PATIENT


James 5: 8 “Be ye also patient: stablish your hearts; for the coming of the Lord draweth nigh”

Read Hebrews 6:13-15



“And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man” Gen. 2: 22.



When God finished the product He was making for Adam, He brought her to him. Some believers are so much in a hurry to get their partner. Some would say, “If God does not give me my life partner by such a time, I will backslide”. Who loses? Is God the one in need or you? The truth is, it takes time to turn raw materials into a finished product. Go to a plant where brand new cars are assembled and you will appreciate all the efforts that go into producing just one car. Not all ladies are from the Lord. Proverbs 19:14 says, “House and riches are the inheritance of fathers: a prudent wife is from the LORD”. If you want your partner from God, as you make your sacrificial inputs, be prepared to wait on Him. Adam did not rush God. He allowed God to handle it and when He was through, Eve came. If you are looking at your age, thinking you are getting too old and unwilling to wait until God is through, you may be courting trouble. If a product is to be made, it has to undergo several processes in probably different machines. It has a set time too. But if you want to bring it out in a hurry, it will have to skip some stages in the production process and turn out to be a defective product. Impatience of some believers has made them rush out their partners before God was through. Yet, today they are complaining about the individual. Be patient!!!



Another thing in this passage is that God led Eve to Adam. Whoever says a sister cannot identify her partner first? Although to avoid looking cheap, she may not want to bell the cat but pray until he too receives from God. However, God can lead the woman to the man, as much as He can lead the man to the woman. Both men and women have access to divine guidance. Are you a sister trusting God for your heaven-sent partner? God will lead you to him. You will not miss God’s best for your life. Go to God and ask. Let Him be your focus. Make the necessary seed inputs and be expectant. The Lord will visit you.



PS: Those who cannot wait on God before embarking on a project end up being caught in the machinery of delay after take-off.

PASTOR E.A ADEBOYE

FROM OPEN HEAVENS – A DAILY DEVOTIONAL

YOU NEED PATIENCE - SINGLE AND MARRIED

FOR THE SINGLE AND MARRIED

BY PASTOR E.A ADEBOYE

RUTH AND OFFERS

Rom 2:7 “To them who by patient continuance in well doing seek for glory and honour and immortality” Also read Ruth 3: 8-10

Ruth was an outstanding lady right from the time she had an encounter with the God of the Jews. She loved God and His people to the point that she gave up her people and nation just like Abraham. And like Abraham, by so doing, she was responding to a divine call. As at the time she was about to leave, Orpah, her sister-in-law, also of Moab, called her aside and asked: “Do you really mean to go with Mama Naomi back to her place?” Yes, she replied,” why? Or have you been brainwashed by the teachings you have been receiving?” Orpah asked with probing eyes. “I believe all we were taught because I have found out that the God of the Jews is real. Why should I continue in Moab and starve myself of more knowledge about this God?” Ruth replied. Orpah was shocked; she stared at her sister-in-law in surprise, “you mean you will forsake your people and their religion and follow the strange God and the customs of the Isrealites? You must be a fool! Have you considered the reality of what mama Naomi said: that there is no guarantee of having another husband or hope of a better life in Isreal, while there are several men to choose from in Moab?”

“Husband or not, I am going with our mother-in-law to her country, people and will serve her God. She has offered me what nobody else in Moab could. I cannot afford to lose this golden opportunity. Do you care to join us?” Ruth asked. “Keep your decision to yourself. I am better off in Moab than any place else. Bye, Orpah said and left.

Ruth went with Naomi to Bethlehem. She had no hope of a suitor because Jews were not expected to marry Gentiles. But over a period of time, people saw that she was a true believer in the Almighty God. Her life and conduct were exemplary. Before long, suitors started coming. But she turned them down as she waited for God. Then he came. When a believer is refusing to accept the offers of the world, it is because there is a better offer for the fellow. Are some individuals asking your hand in marriage, but while praying God says no? It is because He has reserved your Boaz through whom your destiny can be actualized. Also, we learn that in order to get God’s best, patience is inevitable. To get God’s best; you may have to turn down man’s offer. Don’t jump at any offer. If Ruth had done so, she would have been history rather than making history. Pray about all offers.

Addedum: The impatient will most likely miss God’s best. Ask God for grace to patiently wait on Him.

FROM: OPEN HEAVEN- A DAILY DEVOTIONAL.

Finding the right partner in relationship

HIT IT RIGHT. FOR SINGLES

BY PASTOR E.A ADEBOYE

1 COR. 14:26-33

"For God is not the author of confusion, but of peace, as in all churches of the saints" 1 Cor. 14:33
God is interested in guiding His children in all areas of life, and in marriage particularly. As a searching single, it is important to crosscheck with God, what you have heard or seen in visions or dreams and be certain it is God before you say "God says". Believers should be more sensitive to the spirit to prevent from being misled by a voice or dream. It is wrong to tell a sister "God is leading me to you" when it is the flesh. How can God lead four or five brothers to the same sister? How can three sisters be fighting over one brother and all claim God led them? God is not the author of confusion! A particular brother so dreaded approaching the wrong sister in marriage to the point that he took time to settle it on his knees. Even after God led him in different ways, he exercised restrain and asked and received confirmations. Thereafter, he asked the Lord to go and tell the sister that he was her husband. he prayed on this until the Lord told him she had already known and even stated the day she knew. By the time he approached her, she told him the Lord had earlier informed her.

Beloved, are you not tired of approaching different people and not one is the right person? Are you not tired of saying "God says" when merely acting on lust? Are you not ashamed of being repeatedly turned down by your hit and miss tactic? Your inability to get it right suggests a high degree of prayerlessness, lack of openness to God and insincerity. A sister went in the company of an invited minister to a certain church. Before they left, several brothers were already asking him if they could approach her for marriage. He laughed and told them she was not only married but also had three children. How disappointed they must have been. If you are not ready to seek God's face in marriage, you may have to encounter shame, disgrace and disappointment. Stop being lazy. take time and seek the Lord and when He answers you and you eventually approach that individual, you can be sure you will not miss God's best.

FROM: OPEN HEAVENS, A DAILY DEVOTIONAL.

HOW GOD GUIDES - PASTOR E.A. ADEBOYE

James 3:17- 18. But the wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, and easy to be entreated, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality, and without hypocrisy. And the fruit of righteousness is sown in peace of them that make peace.

When God guides you concerning His choice in marriage, even if you could not recognize your partner at first sight, He will use other ways to get you to know the fellow. He can speak to you through the inner voice or witness (1 Kings 19:12). If you are too noisy or too busy to listen inwards, you may not hear this voice. He can also use the audible voice. (1 Sam 3:4-7). This voice is loud enough to arrest your attention, or get you thinking was around the corner talking to you. God can also use dreams and visions. Ensure you subject whatever you hear or see to the written word of God. If it goes contrary to the Bible, then there is no light in it (Isaiah 8:20). God cannot contradict His word.

Another way that God guides is through the peace test (Jas 3:17). If you think of taking the person in question as your wife or husband, how do you feel deep inside you? if you feel disturbed, then it’s most likely the wrong choice. But if you feel an inner peace concerning the fellow, he or she might just be the right partner. One most reliable way God can lead you to your partner is by giving you specific scriptures, or using scriptures to answer you. While praying on the issue, a verse or two could drop in your spirit. Write them down and check them up to know what they are saying.

Each of these ways could be manipulated by Satan, hence you must judge them by the Bible and prayer. Another way God guides is by using others to confirm what He has already told you. In this way, He can use different people- known and unknown to confirm the choice. When several unrelated people are saying the same thing, God could be behind the message. In addition, He can use children, whole families or prayer partners to confirm the fellow. Usually, these people will only be confirming what God has already told you. Similarly, never allow anybody to decide for you. God can also guide you through a word of prophesy. How sensitive are you to God’s leading? As you submit to Him today, He will lead you to your rightful partner in Jesus name. if you desire God’s will, you will surely get it, pray for it.

From: Open Heavens; a daily devotional

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